All I’m comfortable saying in the non-password protected area is to please keep both the baby and myself in your prayers. We got very disencouraging news from the specialists yesterday, and now… it’s just a ticking time bomb. The absolute LEAST we’re expecting is a 2-3 month NICU stay. The most? God only knows.
Birthparents are NOT breeding cows
“We just found out our birthmom is pregnant again. We’re hoping she’s going to place this baby for adoption as well!” “Our birthmom is pregnant. If all goes well, we should hear from her about placing with us again soon.” “Did you know birthmom is pregnant… I assume she’ll be doing another adoption since it’s only been x number of years/months since our child was born.”
As a matter of fact, my own aunt just emailed me lately… Her email told me of this “absolutely wonderful couple who would make great parents but he has a juvenile record that prevents them from adopting, and isn’t it a shame that such great people who make over 300K a year should have to go without a child when I have no problem getting pregnant”. Yeah lady. Right. For starters, what is SO bad on his juvenile record that is preventing him from adopting in the first place. Next. I already told you. I ain’t looking. And finally, 300K a year? Whoop de fucking doo. Money isn’t the key to happiness. Needless to say, I emailed her back a firm, but polite email saying “Yes it’s a shame that they can’t adopt. Most likely unless they find a shady adoption attorney/agency willing to overlook his record they won’t be able to. Also if this is a subtle hint about me placing for adoption, I’ve told you before. I’m NOT interested. Parenting is the only plan in my future.” I got a response. “Well… good… for… you.” That’s it. Nothing more. Needless to say, I don’t think she’ll end up attending the baby shower!
I don’t get why or how people could think just because someone has done an adoption (or surrogacy) in the past, that they should automatically assume the person is going to make the same decision again. However, time and time again, I keep hearing adoptive parents who get all excited when they find out that their childs birthmom is pregant again, and they immediatley start counting down the days until they “hope” they are getting their next child, or they even have the balls to outright ask the birthmom if she plans to place with them again. Not only do I think this is completely uncalled for. I think it’s absolutely rude.
Birthparents are not breeding cows for adoptive parents. They shouldn’t automatically be asked if they are “placing this one too” by people who know they have placed before. It shouldn’t be assumed that because they placed once that they will continue to place again and again and again. However, over and over again, this is all I hear when a birthmom gets pregnant after having placed a child for adoption in the past.
You would think people would have a little more class… You would think they have a little more respect for the person who is pregnant. However, I guess that for some people, that’s just asking for or expecting too much out of them.
However, just to make it clear… birthparents aren’t breeding cows. Just because they are pregnant again doesn’t mean you should assume they are going to place again. You shouldn’t ask them if they are planning to, nor should you expect them to tell you their decision the minute they find out.
For adoptive parents, shut your mouths and don’t start announcing it on your blog that your birthmom is pregnant again and you are hoping that she’s going to place again and that it would be best for both her and the baby (especially after you just made a post last week about how great she’s doing, has her own place, a great job, etc that mysteriously has disappeared now that you’ve announced that she’s pregnant again). Oh and yea… that’s the reason behind this post today.
End of rant.
Baby Registry Fixed & Shower Stuff!
Thanks to the people for pointing out to me that my Babies R Us registry wasn’t working right. The link is fixed and you can get to the registry either by clicking the link in the side bar, or clicking HERE.
We’ve also started getting stuff ready for the baby shower! Whooot! All we know right now is that it will be held around the end of May/first of June… Making sure we have all our ducks in a row just in case baby decides to come early! I wish all of my readers could attend, but we know that just isn’t possible. However, you’re in my thoughts!
Its Midnight… And…
I’m wide awake playing with the puppy. Princess is away at a friends house while I recover, as I couldn’t deal with her cute little 80ish pound butt bouncing on me while recovering… The puppy weighs all of about 9-10lbs and is a LOT easier to handle bouncing around right now (even though the puppy did have to go away for a few days at first as well)… I’m really missing my big girl, and my little guy (Diggs) is really missing his big sister! I can’t wait to have her home again!!!
Right now I’m majorly craving a spinach and artichoke dip that is sooo chunky and full of spinach and artichoke hearts and all around goodness… I’ve been promised it as soon as I arrive at my final destination, but heck, I’ve got soooo long until I get to even leave for there! Let me tell you though, I’ve had others since I’ve returned home, and NOTHING has came even remotely close to what I had there… Makes me wanna cry because I want it so bad.
Speaking of food… and cravings… Let’s see… Spinach and artichoke dip, steak, and brocolli. Yup. That’s my cravings right now. Weird eh? Not to me! I’d give anything for a big, fat, juicy, well done rib-eye steak right now, but alas… It’s midnight, and nothing is open and I don’t feel like cooking anything right now either.
Otherwise, life is going well. The surgery did knock me back a few pegs, and the recovery hasn’t been a bed of roses or as easy as they lead me to believe it would be. I am, however, so thankful for the friends and family that were able to rush to the hospital and be with me. My biggest fear was that there was a chance if the appendix ruptured before they could remove it was that the mortality rate of Baby Bit would basically be… yeah… not good. The chances of Baby Bit surviving if that happened weren’t promising.
Someone held my hand up to the doors of the operating room, and other family/friends were there waiting when I came out of recovery (same person who went back with me came out with me). Come to find out that they had a team of neonatologists there in the operating room “just in case” something went wrong or I went into labor before the surgery was complete! They weren’t taking ANY chances, and for that I’m so thankful.
Come to find out, they caught it just in time apparently. Found that out after visiting my OB and her reading/explaining the report to me. It wasn’t good. No wonder they said “emergency surgery” and had me in surgery and out within an hour of the reports coming back and meeting with the surgeon. In fact, now that I look back on it, from the time the surgeon walked in my room until I was wheeled back into surgery was a whopping 40 minutes. They weren’t playing around. Blah.
Never had surgery before in my life, and the first time has to be when I’m over six months pregnant!!! Ha! Not so funny when I look back on it now, but alas, it’s over, it’s done, and now I’m forever missing a part of my body that really didn’t need to be there in the first place.
And this is what you get when I decide to blog at 1210am while waiting on my rice to finish cooking so I can throw in some stewed tomatoes with green chilis, butter, and a dash of garlic… Yummm!
Insomnia Cures Wanted
The title really says it all… My sleep patterns the last few days have been honestly, shot to hell. Asides from medicating, anyone got anything they tried while pregnant that actually worked?
One thing I don’t like doing is eating before bed (because I always end up having nightmares), and “relaxing, quiet environments” really don’t make a single bit of difference to my brain!
I’ve been hiding lately
Yep. Sure have. Why? Between the emergency surgery in the wee hours (3am on Tuesday morning to be exact), and the pain of recovery from it, I’ve mostly been sleeping in bed relaxing and taking it easy. I’m trying not to take the pain medication (even though the OBGYN says again and again it’s okay) all that much, but at times the pain just gets to be absolutely too much to deal with and I have no choice but to take it… Unless of course I want to become a crying mess on the floor wiggling in pain and in even more pain due to the crying and wiggling.
So you know… if you’ve ever had this type of surgery and know of quick ways to recover from the pain besides the drugs… speak up speak up!
Emergency Appendectomy
Yep. That’s where I’ve been lately… An emergency appendectomy thanks to appendicitis. It wasn’t very pleasant and I’m still in a crap load of pain… but I’m getting through it day by day!
Generic Baby Bit post
For those curious about the baby…
Last ultrasound (April 11th) showed Baby Bit as doing great and bouncing around in there happy as can be. She’s growing steadily and doing great on the inside… As Shannon can attest, she’s just adorable! I so can’t wait to hold her cute little self in my arms in a few months! Really, I can’t!
A few people have asked about things I want/need for the baby. I won’t lie… I’m going to be a single mom on a single parents income. I plan to breastfeed which will save me some money, but the expenses of a baby can add up quickly! I’ve got a baby registry over on the right hand side (Babys R Us- Direct Link) with things I both need and would like to have for her.
However, on the same note! I am not shy, and I would love anything that anyone thinks could/would help. Used girl clothes, toys, etc would also be a welcomed gift. If you’ve got something you’d like to share or can share, email me (or leave a comment) and I’ll get you a mailing address. I guess that in the end what I’m trying to say here, is that I’m not poor, but I am certainly NOT rich. Any help would be greatly appreciated and welcomed with open arms.
I know being a single parent won’t be easy, but at least I have the support of both friends and family. Years ago I wasn’t ready, but now… I’m ready, and god knows I’m so looking forward to meeting this precious little girl, and being her mommy!
Finding Foster Siblings
If you dig deep enough on this blog, you’ll find a post asking for any information that anyone can provide on Richard Clay O’Connor… While to date, he’s yet to be located… I wanted to share that in the past month, three direct hits have came to me from someone googling this phrase:
“Richard Clay O’Connor” “Augusta, GA”
So here’s my invitation for whomever this person googling him is to email me, comment me, or get in touch with me any way, any how… It’d be much appreciated, even if you’re looking for him just like I am!!!
My Butch
I sit here today and run my fingers through my hair, and I smile. I held off on “officially” dating or naming someone as a “girlfriend” due to baby bit, and the cautions around being pregnant and dating. Then I finally ventured out figuring what the hell… if something lands in my lap, it lands… If it doesn’t, then the time isn’t right.
Not only did something land in my lap, she dropped outta the sky. Since someone (aka Shannon) wants more details, here’s what I’m willing to share publically (pictures and other misc info will be in the password protected posts).
My butch is in her 40’s. She’s of latin decent and speaks three languages fluently (and she’s teaching me one of them). Height and weight are average. There’s NO doubt that she is 100% all butch. As a friend would say “ain’t nothin girly bout her”. She enjoys movies, music, and cars. She has two dogs, no children, and is looking forward to possibly enjoying the joys of parenting right along with me. She does live in a state seperate from me, which makes things a little difficult, but luckily, we’re arranging visits back and forth practically every six weeks for two weeks at a pop (let’s see how quickly that changes upon Baby Bit’s arrival shall we). She owns her own house, has worked with the same company for god knows how many years, and is very stable in her life.
Alright. There. I shared.
Adoption Expenses: Right and Wrong
Someone wasn’t too happy with my last post when I made the comment that if the adoptive couple would have asked me “what about us” that I would have responded back with “what about you”. Opinions people, opinions.
Nowadays it’s becoming more common for birthparents to be offered “living expenses” during their pregnancy which can cover everything from clothing, rent, utilities, food, medical, and transportation. Some agencies even offer to relocate the birthmom to the state of the adoptive parents or where the agency is located, thus providing more… *coughs* contact *coughs* prior to placement.
However, if you read some of these agencies sites, they offer FAQ sections for the adoptive parents, and they will clearly state that by the adoptive couple paying expenses and relocating the birthmom, it ups the chances of the birthmom placing to about 98%. Perhaps because the agency feels that the birthmom will feel more obligated to place because of the expenses endured by the adoptive parent, or perhaps by isolating the birthmom away from friends and family, she’ll have less chances of people encouraging her to change her mind. Who knows.
Agencies and attornies are, unfortunatley, becoming more and more competitive in their search for birthmothers signing up with them. Some offer “luxary apartments” for their birthmoms to relocate into during their pregnancy while others offer round trip first class airline tickets to/from the location of the office to meet with the attorney/agency and meet prospective adoptive parents. Some offer extremely high living expenses and “post placement” expenses to the point that it’s astronomical and you KNOW if they looked they could find more reasonable things, but they just don’t.
I remember talking with a mom one time who was considering placing her baby for adoption that was due in about six weeks. She had been talking to my attorney friend for a number of weeks and was ready to move to the next step. However, then she learned of a California attorney who was offering an incentive for placing with him… When I talked to her, she told me “DKL (attorneys initials) said he’d pay my car payments, apartment, utility bills, food, and give me $5000.00 when the baby is born to start over again… What is YOUR attorney going to offer me in return for the baby?” I politely told her that the attorney I worked with didn’t “buy birthmothers” and if she was more concerned about material happiness then it would be best for her to work with the attorney out in California.
Now I’m all for birthmoms choosing which agency they want to work with… I’m all for them looking around and investigating different agencies and attornies. Whenever I counsel a birthmom, I even encourage her to do so. What I’m not for is agencies/attornies promising money and car payments as “reasonable living expenses” in return for a mom agreeing to place her baby through them.
The question comes into play of what I think is reasonable… It depends on each moms situation. If a mom is working and having no problem paying her bills, then what reason does the agency/attorney have to pay her bills for her? However, if a mom can’t work for some reason, I think then paying bills for her could be discussed. However, then you have to ask what is deemed reasonable. Of course she should have electricity, water, housing, food, and a phone.
What happens if a mom needs to relocate? Well then she needs to relocate. However, I think the reasons behind her relocation should be discussed. She shouldn’t be pressured to relocate in order to be closer to the agency or attorney in question. She doesn’t need to be put in the most expensive apartment that can be found. However, nor should she be put in an apartment or housing area that the adoptive couples themselves wouldn’t feel safe living in. I don’t think that they should be forced to live in maternity homes, nor should they be expected to share an apartment with another mom (stranger) that they’ve never met. They need to have privacy as well. Regardless, expenses should be paid directly to the utility companies/apartment complexes instead of to the birthmom.
To ask me to put an exact price tag on it would be unreasonable because each situation is different and each states expenses are different as well. What could be considered reasonable in California would most certainly be unreasonable in Iowa, and what’s considered fair in Alabama wouldn’t possibly cover expenses in New York.
Point being, I think there should be caps on adoption expenses. I think each state should set reasonable expense levels, and those levels shouldn’t be exceeded. I feel the same about agency costs, but gawd we aren’t even going to go into that today because agencies now a days are charging based on race, and that’s a total different subject all together.
I don’t think that just because an adoptive couple spends money on a birthmom should they be able to charge her with fraud for changing her mind. I don’t think agencies/attornies should be able to make moms sign papers stating if they change their mind they will pay the couple back plus any other misc charges that come into play (an agency in Utah actually makes birthmoms sign a paper stating the birthmother will pay $15000.00 in emotional damages if she changes her mind about placement). I’m not sure how much of these papers are legal, but some agencies/attornies sure as hell make these women think they are, and then the women may feel threatened into signing or coersed due to financial aspects of everything.
Sure, this is another ramble without a doubt… Yes I’m all for adoptive parents paying expenses (when they are REALLY needed). Yes, I’m all for birthmoms paying couples back (if the birthmom can afford it). Yes I’m all for prosecuting women who commit TRUE adoption fraud. I’m just not for money being the main factor being a woman placing or a couple throwing a hissy fit when the adoption falls through. With anything there are risks, and when you involve money, even more risks come into play.
Just don’t sit there and say “what about us” when you’ve clearly been an asshole about things, invaded a birthmoms private personal space, and then threatened her with fraud charges for changing her mind over all the things you’ve done and forced upon her. That’s what REALLY pisses me off.
“What about us”- they asked
Just recently I was talking with a friend of mine who is an adoption attorney. She calls me from time to time just to talk, ask questions, get advice, have me talk to expectant moms, and at times, have me talk to potential adoptive parents. Other times, our chats range from the dogs, the kids, her grandkids, Baby Bit’s fastly approaching arrival date and so much more. Our conversation just recently really had me scratching my head.
Let’s start with the background of the story. My friend was working with a pregnant mom. Pregnant mom was matched with a couple who lived in another state. The mom relocated to the couples state. After living with the couple for two weeks, the couple announced to her that they were looking to find her an apartment. No problem was the girls response to the couple. According to my friend, the girl was placed in the home of another adoptive couple who was not signed up with her (the attorney). The girl was told nothing about the couple she would be moving in with other than the fact that they had a basement apartment. The girl along with the couple went out to this home on a Monday. Thursday, she moved into their home.
What the couple she was matched with DIDN’T tell the girl was that this home had several other children living there. There was no kitchen in the apartment, so she would be expected to either eat microwave quick fix meals, or eat meals with the family. The couple she was matched with started fighting the attorney on every aspect of the agreements that they signed down to saying that the girl could get clothes from a church closet or salvation army donation center, and new maternity clothes were not a reasonable maternity expense. They stopped spending time with her, stopped returning calls, and so on. In return, the girl in question grew closer to the couple she was living with, and ultimately unmatched with the first couple and tentatively matched with this new couple.
The girl continued living with the couple. The couple refused to work with the attorney that the girl was accustomed to (my friend), saying that the attorney had no place in this adoption, so they would work with a friend of theirs against the girls wishes. The potential adoptive mom took the girl on shopping sprees with her for the new baby. She insisted that the girl pick out the carseat/stroller combination. She insisted that the girl participate in the planning/designing of the nursery. She even announced to the girl that she was throwing a baby shower for her.
Attorney tried talking to the couple, telling them that involving the girl to that level might not be such a good idea because the girl was uncomfortable with it. They tossed off her advice and continued insisting on her involvement with any and everything baby related. People would come up to the potential adoptive mom and ask her “So what type of birthmom do you got? Is she on drugs, mental, whore/etc” right in front of the girl (attorney said this was verified by the pastor of the church that the girl went to with the potential adoptive mom because attorneys cousin is the pastor). The potential adoptive mom never really corrected anyone, and was always eager to talk about her baby.
My friend said she thinks the final straw in the girl backing out was when the potential adoptive mom invited all her friends to the ultrasound. The girl talked with the pastor and was advised by the pastor to tell the adopting mom she wasn’t comfortable with it. The girl DID tell the adoptive mom that and the moms response? “These people are my support system and I have a right to have them there with me during this ultrasound. They’ve been there through everything else, so how could I not invite them to be a part of this”…. Holy shit. What balls this woman had.
Needless to say, less than two weeks later, the girl backed out of the adoption and has decided to parent the baby.
Back to the present- This potential adoptive mom emailed the attorney, highly pissed that the pregnant mom had changed her mind. They told her they considered it adoption fraud because in two months, supposedly they had spent $3000.00 so far on the adoption plan, and now they were getting nothing in return. They demanded to know how a birthmom could just change her mind like that and not tell them anything (the girl simply left their home) asking if it was just a game all along. They went on to way that the girl stole a blanket (yes a blanket) and they were going to press charges against her for theft of private property (the blanket in question was confirmed by the first adoptive couple to have been taken to the home with her when she moved in).
My friend asked them to detail the $3000.00 they had spent. Now my friend and I are both high school and college attendants, yet we can’t figure out their math, so I’m going to give you the same list that they gave my friend of expenses BEFORE they spit out the $3000.00 quote…
Mural Painting on Nursery Wall- $400.00 (They said that the birthmom INSISTED that they paint a mural on the wall, and insisted that they use this long lost friend of the adoptive couple. My question would be how would the birthmom know the adoptive couples long lost friend painted murals, and really… cmon now… Insisting that a mural be painted? Considering they emailed the attorney telling them about the plans and how they were involving the birthmom in the choosing of the theme, this sounds a little odd).
High Level Ultrasound- $265.00 (They said that the birthmom INSISTED on all those people being invited. Considering attorney has it from the pastor the birthmom was upset and crying in the pastors office the night before about feeling “invaded” and “having no privacy” I doubt this part is true. Another thing that is odd is the fact that the adoptive mom said the birthmom insisted on inviting her husband’s bosses wife along to the ultrasound as well. Yeah… wow)
Stroller/Carseat/Crib Combo- $80.00 (Used)
Maternity Clothes- $50.00 (used)
Baby Clothes- $150.00
So when I do the math, I come up with $945.00 which leaves us with $2055.00 unaccounted for. When this was pointed out to the couple, all they could say was “What about us?”
Wow. From talking with the attorney and listening to what she had to say and what she said the pastor had to say (he spoke with her with permission from the birthmom), I can see how this couple could easily have been overbearing on the girl in question. I can also see how involving a young lady who is considering an adoption to that degree can cause her to start having doubts. I also feel for this young lady on the invasion of her privacy as well. Inviting a couple to an ultrasound is one thing, but them going on to invite THEIR friends and support system after she clearly says she is uncomfortable with it is something else… I also can’t see a birthmom demanding a couple paint a mural on a nursery wall… I can in so many ways see how this girl could change her mind and walk out of the situation without looking back. Even the attorney agrees with her choice.
What I can’t get over is the couple asking the attorney “What about us?”. To begin with, they aren’t even her clients, so technically she doesn’t have to answer any of their questions. Her doing so says a lot about what type of person she is… Both she and I can understand that a couple can be left confused and hurt when a birthmom changes their mind, but at the same time, there are lines you don’t cross, and this couple kept crossing them again and again and again. They cared only about their own feelings and disregarded the girls feelings on many things (many I didn’t even share here).
I don’t see how they can call it fraud. I don’t see how they even think they have a case against her for fraud. The attorney and pastor have too many things documented to dispute that charge. And to threaten filing a police report for a blanket that she supposedly stole… Damn. What balls this couple must have… “What about us?”… Wow… “What about you” would have been my answer to the couple in question. Seriously….
Oh.. and as a side note! Apparently they were licensed to adopt through the state but had a baby removed from their home when she was three months old. The state only gives them older children now to consider for adoption. Doesn’t that make you go “hmmmmmmmm”.
Yes this is a ramble, but I can’t get the whole “what about us” thing outta my mind, nor can I sleep right now. Rant. Over.
So what’s your thoughts on “What about us”…
Take a hint!
Person- Blah blah blah blah x 5 minutes
Me- I’m really not feeling well… I think I need to go to bed
Person- Blah blah blah blah sorry to hear that maybe you should go OMG did you know blah blah blah blah b lah x 10 minutes
Me- You know my head is pounding and I’m seeing spots
Person- Wow that must suck blah blah blah blah blah x 4 minutes
Me- Ummmhmm You know I think I should go because I really-
Person- (cuts me off) Awww blah blah blah blah blah x 5 minutes
Me- Silence
Person- Are you there Girl are you there
Me- I’m here but I really don’t feel good and-
Person- (cuts me off again) Well you know blah blah blah blah blah blah x 5 more fucking minutes
Yeah… I mean aren’t the hints strong enough? Dear freaking god… Literally 45 minutes now and counting… I’ve gotten in maybe six sentences saying I don’t feel well and need to go while this person insists on rambling on, and if I get really cranky the person gets pissed and says I don’t care about the friendship and I’m not being fair to them. It’s a no win situation really… so I put person on speaker phone and allow them to ramble while I’m sighing REALLY loudly, making gagging noises, and moaning in pain… yet they continue blahing on about childish mudane crap that I really could care less about while I suffer.
Vacations Over!
I’m back from my vacation, and back in the daily grind of things. Lovely eh? And I have a doctors appointment this afternoon. Oh, and lets not forget that I’m going on vacation again next month.
And. And. And.
I have a girlfriend. It’s official now. Hot damn.
And who the hell are you again??
Sitting down earlier, I was talking with my attorney friend. We were casually bull-shitting about things going on, the new girlfriend (swwooooon), friends, family, life, love, and other mysteries. We talked about my prior pregnancy and we talked about this one. That’s when she let the bomb drop.
A “friend” emailed her telling her that I was traveling again, and would she talk to me because I was being irresponsible by traveling so “close” to my due date… I’m due July 27th. I’m traveling in May… Close? Ummm whatever. This “friend” goes on to say that she thinks I want her to be more a mother to me (Ummm I have one thanks, and considering that I have more control over her kids than she does….) than a friend.
Yeah. Needless to say I’m sitting here wondering who the hell said “friend” thinks she is. Who the hell are you to email my friends telling them that by traveling I’m being irresponsible? Who the hell are you to think you even have the right to question what I do in the time I have off from work and everything in between? Seriously… Who the hell do you think you are?
It’d be one thing if I thought she was just being caring and worried, but it’s another thing considering I KNOW she’s looking to adopt a baby girl. Ulterior motives? That’s what my attorney friend and I think. That maybe if said “friend” makes me question my actions along with friends questioning my actions, that I may consider letting her adopt baby bit. Um. No. Hell. No. Back the fuck off. Seriously.
Hate to break her little bubble, but despite her asking my attorney friend NOT to tell me about the email, that’s exactly what attorney friend did. Friends don’t keep secrets of that magnitude from each other. Needless to say… that’s a friendship that is officially over. I don’t need friends who seek to use me for their ultimate gain.
And I rolled!
This morning, while finishing preperations for my vacation (I did say I was going on vacation didn’t I), I was reading Cindy’s blog…. I came across something some of her kids said in regards to the sheriff visiting her home to drop off some papers, and I rolled! I was dying with laughter. What a great way to start off my morning… Thanks Cindy!
“”Taser a kid, someone here probably needs it,” suggested Martin. “Why waste a trip?”“Are you kidding me boy? This thing costs about $25 every time we use it.”
While I was doing stupid mathematical calculations in my head, wondering how cost effective it’d be for me to have one there at home, Martin quickly came up with one more bright idea, “Bullets are cheap, right?” “
Foster Parents from Hell…
In the over 10,000 hits that my blog has received, over 150 have came to me from those exact word searches “foster parents from hell”. It makes me sad that people (most likely kids) are searching for that on the internet.
I’d like to think that there are good ones out there (think FosterEmma, Yondalla, Cindy, Baggage, etc), but let’s face it… I personally was in over 50 homes, and I can only name THREE of those foster parents which I consider to be decent, loving, honest, and loyal people. The four foster parents that I linked to above, are most like just four of hundreds who are blogging on the internet, but these four have REALLY caught my attention and stood out more so than the others.
Honestly, I still… just sitting here… can’t get past the fact that somewhere out there, people are looking up “foster parents from hell”, but what really catches me even more… is a hit that came to me from “my foster dad abuses me, who can I call”. There were no quotes, and I have no idea how that got linked with my page, but it did. And my heart hurts. I really hope whoever googled that and found my blog through it can find the help he/she needs. However, if they/you happen to come back by my blog, leave a comment… I’ll make sure to point you in the right direction to get the help you need, and if I can’t, I’m sure one of the four ladies that I linked to above would be glad to step in and see what they could do to help point you in the right direction.
And people are surprised that I am as strong of a person today as I am…
Meet The Players…
Someone recently asked me if I could/would post a picture of the people mentioned in this blog. After thinking about it for a while, I asked myself, why not? Sometimes having a face to associate with a name helps out… So here we go… Please note the only reason that Theatrics III is not pictured is due to the fact that I recently got a new computer, and couldn’t find her picture on it.
April-
Julie aka Theatrics I-
CJ aka Theatrics II-
Wenday aka Theatrics IV-
Buddy-
A Random Thought & 20 Q’s
Have no fear for giving over. You better know that in the end it’s better to say too much, than never to say what you need to say again. Even if your hands are shaking, and your faith is broken. Even as the eyes are closin’, do it with a heart wide open. Say what you need to say before it’s too late…
With that thought in mind, a lot of bloggers are playing “20 Questions” where they allow their readers to post questions in the comments area, and they answer them. I’m game. So have at it. You’re welcome to ask anything, and expect it to be answered. One thought in mind, don’t ask something you really don’t want to know the answer to.
Happy asking!
